We were at work discussing the various personality types based on the Myers-Briggs Personality tests, and it was hard for people to believe I was actually an INTROVERT, let alone an INFJ.
1. From a young age, you felt different from the people around you
I can say I almost felt alien. I had a hard time being around girls my age, because I was always the “weirdo” or the “eccentric” or the one who had the most varied outlook / opinion about things. Makes sense now.
2. You want to know what’s REALLY going on in people’s lives
I still ask those awkward “personal” questions. Don’t worry I’m not prying. I’m simply trying to get a “feel” of your experience. Whether it was a holiday, work or something as trivial as shopping…. be prepared to be bombarded with lots of questions..
Although I’d like to believe I’m the Spontaneous kind, my spontaneity always comes with a loose plan in place. I tend to feel confused and somewhat frustrated when random unexpected events or plans crop up…. eeerrrrrrggghhh!!!
4. You’re social, but…
This is where I often get mistaken for an extrovert. When I’m around people and social settings that I am comfortable with, I can be the chatterbox, literally laughing out loud. But, once I’m done with you, I need to find myself a quiet space to unwind and recharge. Leave me a lone for just 5 mins and I’ll bounce back.
5. How you handle problems
I am known to be a good listener, and people often “seek my counsel”. I deeply question the advice that I dish out – I’m not the best person you know, but I much rather leave people better than I found them, and that means having arrived at some solution for the problems they came to me with.
6. There are limits to your introversion
I looooovveee spending time on my own. In fact, at times I feel like I don’t have enough time on my own. I read, I blog, I paint, I listen to music, I be Me. I’m happy. But sometimes I do get asked, “Don’t you get bored being alone all the time?” and although the answer is always a “NO!”, the truth is, sometimes it does get to me. When I was younger, I used to have bouts of depression and lots of FOMO moments. But as I grew up, a day spent around people or simply chatting on the phone with a special friend helps get me back.
7. The Door Slam
Although I am tolerant of all types of people, there are some that I tend to lose my patience with, and these are the ones who experience total dissonance from me. I switch off, distance myself and eventually “disappear” from their lives. I read somewhere that INFJ’s use this as a defense mechanism for not being hurt more than they already are… be careful then, how you tread these still waters.
8. You can be a people-pleaser
If there is anything that I hate – it’s getting on the wrong side of anyone. I often tend to find the middle ground if not totally abandon my side of the fence to come and help keep you’re greener. This sometimes costs me much more in terms of my emotional health, but I just want to see everyone happy! How hard can that be……
Sometimes, I use this just to avoid being criticized or dealing with disappointment (not mine, but others of me). So bending over backwards can be considered a “defense mechanism” against these emotional upheaval
9. Empathy & HSP
Have you ever cried at the movies? Or then heard or seen something sad and had a hard time shaking that feeling off? Or maybe you were having a heart to heart with your best friend and noticed that you actually felt like you were going through his/he experiences? Yes. Yes. And Yes. Well, that’s me (us) Big. Empathic. Empaths.
On the other side of the coin, we are HSPs (Highly Sensitive People). We immediately pick up vibes of those around us, and tend to mirror them. If the air stinks, we stink too.
10. You have a destiny and you are always striving to be better than you were
Growing up I always believed I was made for bigger things – saving the world, being a super hero, being Captain America. I never could put my finger on it and till today I am constantly searching for my “purpose”. Maybe my purpose is hidden in the next skill I learn, or the next job I take up. Ah well, I guess we just have to keep trying eh?
11. A Higher Preference
As a child, I was always drawn towards the most expensive item in the shop. Still am. I’d walk into a store, set my eyes on something, only to find out later – ooops, can’t afford that one! Sometimes, I do give in, after all, we only live once, so why think twice!
12. Books, please!
Reading is my FIRST LOVE. I love to read about anything and everything. My latest subject of interest is Spirituality. Check out my latest finds on this subject here.
13. Your head is way beyond the clouds
I was oftentimes considered “rude”, “inattentive” or being accused of “day dreaming” as I used to zone off mid-conversation. While people were busy having trivial conversation, I was busy with my thoughts. I still do that. I’m never 100% present in conversations that do not trigger my interest.
So, if you can identify with any of the above traits, guess what you and I are rare! Let’s celebrate this fact and enjoy being our unique, weird selves!
I found the above from a very resourceful site. Click here to discover more about Introverts.
To discover what personality type you are, follow this link to take the test.